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20 things successful and likeable people do

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Are you a likeable person? If you want to be rich and successful, you should make sure you are.

One person cannot pave the road to success alone. You will need friends and allies to help you achieve what you want.

Even Steve Jobs, the genius behind Apple's iconic products, knew he had to convince and influence other tech talents like Steve Wozniak to help him achieve his dream.

People who want to get far in their careers should know that hard work must be accompanied by charisma. One must learn how to win friends and influence the right people to get to the top.

Here are 20 things you can do to make sure your co-workers and business partners like you.

20 ways to get everyone to like you
  • Negativity rubs off on others and drives them away because they tend to feel unhappier around you.
  • It is okay to joke around, but make sure you do so respectfully. No one wants to talk to someone who is a pain to listen to.
  • You may think you are always right, but that does not mean you should lecture others about what they have done wrong. If you feel something can be improved, speak to the other party honestly but respectfully.
  • Remember your manners and control your temper. It may be difficult to remain calm when your buttons are pushed, but always remember that losing your cool will only make you look like the fool.
  • People really appreciate and remember those who have helped them and shown them patience in times of need. Be careful of being a pushover, but also keep in mind to be more accepting of other people's shortcomings.
  • Do not judge others and be keep yourself open to interacting with all sorts of people. If you want to get others to like you, you have to make the effort to like them first.
  • Your smile is probably your biggest asset. Not only does it make you a more pleasant person to be around, it can also be used to  influence those around you.
  • If you have nothing good to say, then don't say it at all. Filter your opinions so you don't offend other people unnecessarily.
  • Stop wasting time. If others see that you procrastinate, they will assume you are an inefficient worker.
  • If you want to be looked upon fondly, make the effort to help others without expecting anything in return.
  • Learn from failure instead of harping on it. Brooding creates a depressive air around you, and drives your colleagues and friends away from you.
  • When speaking to others, make them feel important by maintaining eye contact, listening to them patiently and remembering what they have told you.
  • Point out good traits other people have to encourage them and build their confidence. Your colleagues will love talking to you if recognise their strengths and help them make them feel better about themselves without being a suck up.
  • And be open to hearing critique and changing what needs to be changed.
  • Remember to maintain eye contact and keep open positions that allow other to approach you. Also, adjust your body language to reflect the situation - relaxed in a conversation, and upright in a formal meeting.
  • You can only get others to open up to you if you open up to them first. Make the first smile, share the first joke and be the first to offer help when it is needed.
  • As much as you want others to like you, don't go all out trying to win someone else's favour. If the other party is not reciprocating, move on and take a hint. You want people to like you so you can influence them better, not so you can be their doormat.
  • Appearance counts. Whether you like it or not, human beings are drawn to things that look pretty and well-maintained. Keeping yourself groomed is also a way of showing respect for the people who have to see you every day.
  • Nobody likes a dirty person. Keep clean and be mindful of how others feel when you look or smell like you haven't brushed your teeth in a week.
  • If you have advise, learn to give it to others gently. Just because you think you are right does not mean that  other people have to agree with you. Learn to accept it when others decline to follow your advise.
17 ways to lose friends at the office
  • You take your own sweet time when everyone is waiting. Even if it is just a few minutes, causing delays in other people's schedules puts you in a bad light. People remember the little things and your inconsideration could cost you a allies in the office.
  • Not only are you always late for meetings, you also strut into the room as if you don't owe anybody an explanation. You give no apologies and don't even bother to apologise for being late.
  • Arrogance will get you in trouble eventually. If you think too highly of yourself and only talk to people you think deserve your attention, your co-workers are bound to notice. If you want to be at peace with everyone and avoid conflicts, remember to stay humble.
  • You're always asking for favours and can never seem to get anything done on your own.
  • While you are keen on asking others for help, you are reluctant to help others. When asked for a favour, you come up with lame excuses and think of ways to get out of the situation.
  • When things go right, you never hesitate to take credit for it. When projects turn sour, however, you push the blame to others in the blink of an eye. Your lack of responsibility makes you an untrusted foe to have in the office.
  • An irritating person asks questions on purpose so that they can tell others they are wrong. Those who ask questions without wanting to actually hear another opinion are just looking for a chance to put others down and push their own point across.
  • You pretend to be nice to others but talk badly of them to sabotage their chances at the workplace.
  • Not only are you demanding, you also get angry when you don't get what you want. It doesn't matter if you are the boss' son or the top employee of the month, an attitude of entitlement causes others to resent you.
  • You can't tell a serious situation from a light-hearted one, and your runaway mouth always gets you in trouble.
  • Even when someone makes fun of themselves for being chubby, you should not take it as an invitation for you to insult or hurt their feelings. Learn to respect others. People with confidence issues have a tendency to make fun of themselves - but that doesn't mean you are allowed to make fun of them too.
  • You say things like "I'm so tired, I've been entertaining my millionaire clients too much. I'm so envious of the rest of you who have clients who are not as rich".
  • You have an opinion for every situation and assert yourself in other people's business. You always always tell others what they should do by telling them that their own ideas are bad and unworkable.
  • You seem to have a differing opinion for the things others say. You can't help but tell them how wrong they have gotten the idea, while acting like you know everything about the universe.
  • You take personal calls without stepping out of the office and the whole world knows when you have had an argument with your husband. You also talk loudly so that you can brag about what you are doing and feel more important in the office.
  • Even if it is a small meeting where notes need not be taken, you refuse to give your laptop a break just so you can pretend to look more hardworking than the rest.
  • Colleagues who smile at you are either greeted by a cold glare or a cold shoulder. You are an unpleasant person to encounter at the lift lobby because you always look annoyed and unhappy with others.

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